Fun to stumble upon this article about wedding details that guests remember on Style Me Pretty featuring one of our favorite details... Jackson's Ice Cycle at Amanda & Blake's Sonoma wedding. It's true... it's all about the details. Have a look and thanks Style Me Pretty!
As we prepare unplug so we can enjoy the holiday with our families for Thanksgiving, we wanted to express our gratitude for the wonderful clients who let us into their lives and share their most special days with us. We are also so grateful for the many talented, hardworking vendors that support us and make us look good all year long. We wish them and you a very happy Thanksgiving. If you're looking for some Thanksgiving inspiration check out our Autumn Candlelight wedding which is a perfect fit for the season.... and our friends over at Style Me Pretty Living have some great tips for how to make sure your Thanksgiving meal goes off without a hitch! Now we're off to enjoy a glass of bubbly! Cheers!
Repost - 4 reasons “day of” coordination does not actually exist by Valerie Guernhauser of Sapphire Events, New Orleans
I stumbled on this article last week on Facebook and it is GOOD. And thanks to Valerie Gernhauser of Sapphire Events in New Orleans, I'm able to repost it in its entirety. While "event management" is just a piece of what we do as Full Service Planners at Rosemary Events, our sister company RE Associates provides this service often and we find that many couples really don't understand what truly goes into executing a seamless event... Keep in mind that some of these prices may not apply to all areas of the country. On both coasts, the rate for "event management" in the final months may come in a bit higher than outlined below. Thank you Valerie... this sums it up perfectly...
Looking for someone to come in the day before (or even day of your wedding) to oversee a year or more of your best laid plans? That person will not be able to execute anything you’ve planned in the way you think they should. Here’s why:
1. There is no such thing as an ability to show up just on the day of and be able to understand all the nuances and intricacies of what you have planned yourself.
This myth is perhaps the greatest misconception among brides as to the scope of work involved in making an event of such scale happen flawlessly. Typically clients looking to go this route are hoping to save valuable dollars by cutting out costs on the front end. However, what this ultimately does is eliminate a critical player in the management of the day: your professional labor force. We have received inquiries in the past from potential clients looking for “someone ‘just’ to come set up a ‘few’ centerpiece arrangements that Aunt Sally made because we didn’t want to pay a professional florist’s delivery and set-up fees.” The point is, someone still has to set this up the way you expect it to look, and at the end of the night, someone has to pack it back up and return it to you. Hiring a “day of” coordinator “just” to set up your DIY projects is not a feasible solution for this, and the reality is clients need much more support that set-up and tear-down. Your coordinator should be occupied with keeping you on schedule and overseeing the flow of events, not getting distracted with assembling ambitious DIY projects and setting up your tables and chairs.
3. You don’t know what you don’t know.
We know that you are an intelligent, capable professional who is great at decision-making and developing a plan. However, at some point you will have to turn over the reins to someone so that you can take your place in the starring role. We also know that letting go is hard (trust me, we are very type-A over here). There is no replacement for having a non-emotionally involved third party take charge of your big day!
Having an expert by your side for consulting services throughout your planning process is an invaluable tool in your belt to ensure that you don’t make costly mistakes, and avoid committing to inefficient scenarios. From transportation snafus, late cake deliveries, and the whims of mother nature, your event manager has seen it all! We can help you prepare by answering your logistical questions along the way and point you in the right direction with your vendors so that you are set up for success long before the big day arrives. We know what choices lead to incredible disasters on the day of, and we have ideal solutions to make sure these things don’t happen. What might take you weeks (if not months) of research on your own to uncover a solution for your planning quandaries can take your event manager five minutes or less to resolve for you when planning ahead. Hiring an event manager for the length of your planning process will save you time, energy, and definitely dollars at the end of the day.
4. Your lack of preparation is not your coordinator’s emergency.
Think hiring a coordinator 30 days out from your big day means they will plan everything you procrastinated at the last minute? Think again! One month out from your date leaves very little time to reserve necessary resources to ensure your big day will be a success. Inventories are already committed to other events, service providers have had their calendars booked for months, and your resources are very limited. Your coordinator, though skilled and talented, will not be able to book hotel blocks, find your florist, book an available cake baker, or recommend a resource for 250 chairs for your seated dinner on such short notice. Avoid falling into the trap of thinking that anything you do not plan on your own will be planned by your coordinator in the final month of your engagement, especially during busy season. It is never too early to make final decisions and secure vendors you need. Your coordinator will be able to execute your plans but only if you have stayed on top of your planning calendar and secured your vendors well in advance.
WHAT YOU ARE REALLY LOOKING FOR INSTEAD OF A “DAY OF” COORDINATOR:
A “month of” coordinator is an imperfect solution in response to the “day of” coordinator mythology. Typically, a “month of” coordinator helps out in the last 30-45 days leading up to your event, with very little (if any) communication with the client during the planning process up to that month-out threshold from the event date. The reason this is an imperfect solution is that really any restriction or time limitation on a coordinator’s involvement in what amounts to be a tremendous milestone in your life is insufficient to meeting both client expectations and real-life needs. You see, planning an event of this scale on your own is one thing, then handing it over to a professional on a short turn-around leaves very little leverage for anyone involved to correct mistakes or solve problems that might have otherwise been planned more efficiently, more cost effectively, and seamlessly earlier on when there was more time to research and develop an appropriate plan.
I regret that the terminology of “month of” coordination has become so popular as an alternative to “day of” over the years, because the harsh reality is that “month of coordination” really isn’t a realistic approach either. Have you noticed that seasoned planners who have been in the business for several years and have grown successful offer “month of” services less and less? The frustrations from the planner’s perspective are too great to risk the amount of work involved in correcting issues that could have easily been avoided early on. I have to say, the planning community has really brought this frustration on itself, because the fact is that the “month of” is an arbitrary time limitation self-imposed by a group of well-meaning professionals who know better. Let’s be honest: there is very little difference in what a coordinator is able to accomplish one month out from an event vs. the week of or day of. It’s still not enough time. Clients deserve a more thoughtful and thorough process with their coordinator in order to have a mastery of all the ins and outs of the event day. Successful coordinators simply can’t do that on a short time frame. And frankly, you deserve an actual relationship founded in trust with the person in charge of every aspect of managing your big day, which can only be developed over time.
The appropriate term of art is an event manager. There is no time limit notation here worthy of mention, because whether you decide to hire an event manager a month out or a year out, you deserve access to a tried-and-true professional in the business who can advise you wherever you find yourself in the planning process. An event manager should be by your side from the moment you sign a contract and retainer to help you make cost effective, efficient decisions as you plan your event on your own. Make no mistake, though - this individual is not here to plan your event for you at a reduced price. The lion’s share of the planning is still in your court, but enhanced by having access to a professional to answer logistical questions and refer you to professional vendors that are a good fit for your needs.
In this business, we have seen it all. We know what works and what doesn’t, who among your vendors is good and who is great. Yet we also respect the fact that there are plenty of clients who are capable of planning an event on their own, with a little guidance from a knowledgeable resource. That’s why an event manager is the perfect solution for your needs. Our sister company, Ruby and Pearl Events, has focused on event management as a service to clients both local and abroad who value the advice of a seasoned professional to point them in the right direction throughout planning. In the long run, our clients have saved money and avoided mishaps on the day of an event because their event manager has served as an invaluable support system from the beginning.
I’m grateful that the industry is starting to see “day of” and “month of” terminology shift toward “wedding management” and “event management,” which is truly a more accurate description of what clients need and the service coordinators provide. And we wholeheartedly believe that every single event deserves a non-emotionally involved third party to oversee the run-of-show and manage the countless logistics on the day of. We are happy to finally see the right term of art come rise to the surface. You should be a guest at your own event, and look good as the host. Let an event manager take the reins on the rest. At Ruby and Pearl Events, that is certainly our specialty and our pleasure. Trust us, you won’t regret investing in a high-quality and experienced event producer. Peace of mind on the big day is priceless!
Well, it took longer than I thought to publish my 3rd post but what better day to post it than the 1 year anniversary of this wonderful couple. I present to you Part 3 of our 3 part Napa Valley vineyard estate wedding. You can see part 1 here and part 2 here. I saved the best for last because the dinner and dance party we planned for this happy couple was really to die for... Isabel Lawrence and Kristen Loken captured every gorgeous moment of this poolside al fresco dinner. Due to privacy request from the client we are sharing details only.
This is one of those details that is so incredibly complex in craftsmanship, the photos (however beautiful) truly can't capture their artistry. The artwork and calligraphy by Cynthia Warren was drawn specifically for the occasion, menu custom letterpressed by Tiny Pine Press and finished off with a silk ribbon and their monogram embossed on velvet .
Fruit in silver bowls by Nicole Sillapere and Pain d'epi by Acme bakery celebrating the bounty of the harvest season.
Understated elegance - a gorgeous and simple cake but the master Sam Godfrey of Perfect Endings.
After dinner guests were invited to a lounge tent for dancing and dessert.
After their romantic lakeside ceremony, our couple wanted stayed back to take in the moment and get a few pictures with Isabel Lawrence who did an amazing job capturing this event. Meanwhile guests made way over to the Bocce lawn. There they were greeted with some craft cocktails by Rye on the Road , delicious passed hors d'oeuvres by Tasha DeSerio and an amazing space to enjoy created by Nicole Sillapere and Rosemary Events. Thanks to Kristen Loken for capturing the lovely details at the cocktail hour. If you haven't seen Part 1 yet, you might want to check it out here.
Guests mingled and relaxed on beautiful furnishings in the garden.
Cannot get enough of these gorgeous florals by Sillapere. LOVE Hellebores.
Synchronicity Strings played classical renditions of modern songs.
Sillapere knocked it out of the park once again with amazing florals in vintage silver vessels and gorgeous furniture groupings.
Foie gras pâté on toasted pain di mie with sherry, shallot & thyme AND Petite deviled eggs with caviar & fine herbes by Tasha De Serio
Lamb skewers with Meyer lemon & pounded garlic & Marash
Rye on the Road created some amazing concoctions: Basil Gimlets, Manzanitas and "Fall For Yous" for everyone!
Fried Jimmy Nardello peppers, Castelvetrano olives & lemon AND Burrata on grilled levain with roasted cherry tomatoes & basil by Tasha DeSerio
Through her namesake company, Rosemary Hattenbach has produced countless spectacular celebrations.